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There are a few rules when it comes to asking for money.

First, money isn’t all you’re going to be asking your sending Pastor for.

You’re going to ask for them to pay your salary for two years. It’s always best to ask high. People always make counter offers. Originally, they weren’t probably thinking of giving you anything. Now, you might get 6 months to a year out of them. See how it works?

So after you ask, and they pause and reply, “Sorry, we just can’t do that”, you counter with, “What would be reasonable?”. Then you wait. Shut up. Don’t talk. Seriously.

In the sales world, there is a saying that says that the first person to speak after an offer has been laid out is automatically the loser in the deal. Always.

Just sit tight and wait while they think. Next, you’re going to ask them for more. Health benefits.

Use of their insurance and their accounting staff to run your finances. You’ll ask for their constitution and bylaws.

You’ll ask to use their legal team (for 501c3). You’ll ask them to set you up a bank account.

You’ll ask to give a pitch and appeal on a Sunday morning. You’ll ask them to bankroll your sound system.

You’ll ask to piggyback on all of their graphics and media (vids, music, licenses). You’ll ask for some interns (they’ve got them and usually don’t know what to do with them to keep them busy).

You may not want to do this, but I’ve got one question for you. What’s the worse that could happen?

The answer? They say no. You’ll live.

Nonetheless, you don’t want to walk away wondering what could have happened if you’d had the stones to ask for more. “You have not because you ask not” is a startling truth to wake up to down the line. Don’t let it happen to you.

A word on this. Always do it in person. Always do it across the table, and over a meal. The food is a distraction, and the awkwardness can be a tad much if you don’t have any mash potatoes to focus on during the awkward silence. Having something else to focus on is like the gravy that makes the mashed up potatoes of the ask go down easier.


Buy Peyton’s newest book “Reaching The Unreached: Becoming Raiders of the Lost Art” over on Amazon.com. You can also download a free chapter and watch a cool trailer for the book HERE or click the image below.

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